With Mother’s Day just passing, it made me think of just how amazing women are. We are able to carry a baby for 9 months, birth that child, and are able to bounce back (after some time, of course).
Being a mom of two, I have many good days but I also have my bad days. The days when I look at my stretch marks and want to cry. The days when I get more pimples from my crazy hormones and get so frustrated. As a woman, one of the hardest things we could ever do is go through a pregnancy. It brings with it lots of physical and emotional changes, good and bad! Don’t get me wrong, I loved being pregnant. I’ll always think of it as one of the most beautiful things I’ve ever experienced, but I do still struggle with certain aspects of postpartum.
The fact that it takes so long to fully recover has been a hard thing for me. I mean, I HEALED crazy fast this time around, but I’m still dealing with hormone ups and downs, which impact me emotionally and physically. They say that it takes 9 months to complete a pregnancy, so it will take about that long to feel normal again. I am lucky that I have so much support, especially from my older sister (also a mother). She tells me all of the time, “show yourself some grace” and I can’t tell you how much that has helped me! Why do we live in a society that still expects women to be normal after just a few weeks or months after giving birth? It’s a very unrealistic expectation, and we shouldn’t be putting that kind of pressure on new moms.
We need to start accepting that it’s a slow healing process. The sooner that we can accept that, the sooner we can start loving ourselves more. It doesn’t matter to our babies if we have an extra 10 pounds that we can’t get rid of. It doesn’t matter to our babies if we have stretch marks, or c-section scars, or flabby arms. Those things don’t mean that we aren’t still beautiful.
I want my daughter to grow up with healthy expectations and that starts with me. I don’t want her to grow up hearing me always talk about how much I hate my nose, or how pale I am, or how much weight I need to lose. I want her to want to be confident! I want her to focus on being healthy and active. So I’m going to show her how to love herself by loving myself. We shouldn’t spend our lives looking down at all of the things we wish we could change because then we will miss seeing all of the beauty around us. And if you ever need a reminder at just how amazing you are, look down at those precious babies of yours and remember that you made them.
Show yourself some grace.